September 23, 2010
TAMAR MICHAL FRIEDNER
(1977 - 9/12/2010)
Tamar Michal Friedner, 32, resident at Dancing Rabbit Ecovillage, Rutledge, Missouri, died Sunday, September 12, 2010 at her sisterís home in Greenfield, Massachusetts. She had lived with pancreatic cancer for a year. Tamar was buried during a service held at Dancing Rabbit last Friday, September 17, attended by friends and family members from far and near who gathered to share stories, offer tributes, celebrate her life and bid her farewell. Her body was tended and carried by many who loved and cared for her.
Tamar was raised in Milford, Massachusetts, attended Virginia Tech and graduated from the University of Vermont. She worked on a number of farms, including in Vermont and in Iowa, and participated in the Wolf Project in New Mexico before coming to Dancing Rabbit in 2000 at the tender of age of 22.
From that time until she left in October 2009 to seek healing near her family in the Northeast, Tamar was a backbone member of our community, notable for her unfailing efforts to keep the group focused on the villageís mission and the good of the community as a whole. In addition to filling significant roles in community governance, Tamar spent much of her time gardening and working on natural building projects at Dancing Rabbit. She excelled at both through dedicated effort, experimentation, and collaboration with others, and regularly shared her knowledge with both old and new residents and visitors to Dancing Rabbit. We are fortunate that she left so many examples of her art and creativity that will commemorate her work. Her infectious laughter still rings in our ears around the village.
Among many other pursuits, Tamar played fiddle, frequently anchoring contradance bands and also teaching a number of local fiddle students for many years. She practiced and later taught yoga here, and was a regular in games of Ultimate Frisbee. Tamar loved to experiment with the food she grew, and spent many hours in various kitchens and alongside a great variety of collaborators creating edible works of art to share with all. She cared for many around her, always ready to offer healing help with injuries or supplying appropriate herbs or tinctures for any ailment, and also started down the path of midwifery. Her care frequently extended to animal friends, especially dogs, as well. Likewise in the emotional realm she provided support to many and consistently worked to improve her own emotional fluency. Tamar made friends everywhere, and was a strong thread in the building of intentional community in Northeast Missouri, striving always in word and deed to make her home a kind and loving place to live. She will be deeply missed here where she lived and far afield among all she touched.
Tamar is survived by her parents Amos and Eva Friedner, of Milford, Massachusetts, and her sister Sharon Friedner, of Greenfield, Massachusetts. A memorial service will be held near Milford for Tamar in the coming weeks. Her family and friends are extremely grateful to all those who provided Tamar with their love and support during the last year, most especially Nathan Brown who was with her emotionally, and often physically, throughout her cancer journey.
A memorial fund focused on health and healing has been set up in Tamarís honor here at Dancing Rabbit; if you would like to make a donation in her honor, checks can be sent to: Dancing Rabbit Ecovillage, Tamar Fund, 1 Dancing Rabbit Lane, Rutledge, Missouri, 63563.
You are free now, Tamar. We will miss you always.